17-1-2009

Soul Mates and Twin Souls: Discourse by Ellaeenah

Did you realize how long you took to keep quiet? I played a mantra for 7 ½ minutes; it was only in the last few seconds you kept quiet. No, I am not finding fault with you; I’m just pointing out how difficult it is for us to connect to Self; how much we need to talk endlessly and, very often, without purpose.

What are we seeking in this endless chatter? Why do we talk so much? Why is it so difficult for us not to maintain even 5 complete minutes of full silence? The answer is simple. It’s because we don’t know who we are talking to inside. It’s natural for us, as human beings, to communicate. We have to communicate; it’s part of who are, and this communication could be by word, by touch, by action. We seek external communication when there is no other means of communication open to us. When the inner means of communication are either dormant or not very active, we seek external noise. That is why so many people find it so difficult to be by themselves. And those who like being by themselves will often be humming a tune, or reading, watching TV, working in the garden. That’s also a form of external communication.

Inner communication is non-activity. How many of us do that every day? How many of us do that once a week? That is why we need relationships.

If we were able to spend as much time by ourselves, in deep connection, in deep communion, with who we are within, none of us would need a relationship. That is the first thing a relationship brings us: someone we seek to talk to, talk with, exchange ideas with, communicate with. A relationship that is not meaningful, where you feel a lack of fulfillment, where you feel a sense of discontent, is one where there is very poor communication.

People provide all kinds of reasons for their miscommunication or lack of communication, ranging from: ‘My husband comes home very late at night’ to ‘My wife never has time from her cooking and household chores’ to ‘Mom is too busy with the baby to talk to me.’ These are all ‘excuses’. You may be busy, you may be engrossed in other activity, but if in the course of that activity, you are still connected to the ‘inside’, not a single person around you will experience lack of communication with you. Even if you haven’t uttered a word, your very beingness will embrace them all.

That, my friends, is the crux of communication: embrace. That is what a relationship is all about. It’s about embrace. Please understand that when I use the word ‘relationship’ I am not referring to only matrimonial alliances or romantic partnerships. Not at all! Yours and mine is a relationship, even if we have met for the first time. I can feel an energy connection with B and M even though I’ve met them for the first time. The moment I walked in, I knew who they were. That is communication at the deepest level: one without words.

I remember, when I was around 6 or 7 years old, we’d go on trips where mom and dad would go for long walks. One day I asked Dad what they talked about on these long walks. And I was amazed when he said: “Nothing”. I realize now that he meant that they didn’t need to talk, because you can communicate so much more, and so much more significantly, in silence. Words often do not convey what you wish to convey. In fact, very often they convey what you don’t wish to convey, only leading to conflict.

Relationships teach us about communication, about embrace, and that’s why we seek them, but in this uniquely topsy-turvy world of ours, relationships teach us about communication through miscommunication. They teach us about embrace when we have separated. Often, we get entangled in the miscommunication, get caught in the separation, not recognizing that it is but a learning curve towards understanding of true communication and embrace. Due to this entanglement we perceive that the relationship has failed.

No relationship ever fails. It cannot. Even if you separate, you take a divorce, stop talking to a friend, you don’t see your parents again, it is still not a failed relationship. In its very distraught, in its very fear or rage or conflict, it has made you victorious, because it has given you an opportunity to exercise your Divine Will to learn something about self-communication, to learn something about self-embrace, to learn how strongly you are connected to that inner being that is YOU.

But, here I ask you: If you don’t take the time to talk to yourself, why should another? Why should your partner talk to you when you don’t have even 5 minutes to talk to yourself? Why should someone make the effort to embrace you, when you don’t make the effort to embrace yourself? Aren’t you, thus, in effect implying that you are not worth talking to or embracing?

We are magnets. We draw communication or miscommunication to ourselves. We draw to ourselves only those relationships that we are meant to draw. You may come to me for 10 sessions and each time ask me, ‘When am I going to meet my twin soul?’ Each time you will get the same answer: ‘As of now, I can’t see it happening in the near future.’ Why can I not see it happening? Because when I see your energy structure, I don’t see that you are communing with yourself. In that awareness I know that you will not draw your twin soul to you.

A twin soul comes into your life when there exists deepest connection with yourself. That is why very rarely does this event occur. In fact, what most people think is a ‘twin soul’ is really a ‘soul mate’. We meet soul mates on a regular basis. Let me explain this.

Visualize a large orb of energy. That’s your total soul energy volume. That orb splits into two. In that first binary split, energy takes on an aspect: mother/father, Shiva/Shakti, God/Goddess, yin/yang, male/female. Those two orbs start radiating themselves as energy strands, as smaller and smaller orbs, of which you are one.

If S and I were twin souls and we were to recognize ourselves and meet as twin souls, it would mean that she and I, both, are completely free of veils of forgetfulness. As soon as the veils discard themselves, the tiny orbs that have individuated begin to move towards the source of the binary split. S may have predominantly male energy and I may have predominantly female energy, and because we are completely free of soul memory, residue, issue, free of forgetfulness, her dominant divine essence of Shiva and my dominant divine essence of Shakti will be in full manifestation in living reality and the two will merge. They are like magnets drawing the other to them: twin souls. Every single soul will draw to itself its twin orb and in that merger is union: back to the unified Source.

Many choose of think of those whom they are strongly attracted to, or in love with, as their twin souls. For example, there is this hunk who comes into her life. She may not be happy at home, so she is certain that she has miraculously found her ‘twin soul’. She wants me to read the divination cards and tell her if there is a past life connection with him. Friends, a past life connection can be found with almost everyone that we meet. This does not take away the truth of the matter which is: twin souls rarely meet. Soul mates meet every lifetime. So, in her regressions, she and her lover have met and had the most interesting romantic alliances, but at the last minute her lover is killed and taken away by her cruel father (who miraculously takes on the face of her current life husband with whom she has numerous conflicts) and so their love remained unrequited. And now he is there, in human form, waiting to save her from her husband.

Past life memories are NEVER about twin souls, ALWAYS about Soul mates! Yes, you may have loved each other and separated tragically. All of this may be true. But, did you stop and ask why? The universe is not cruel. It doesn’t give you tragedy. It gives you joy. You create tragedy out of it, for in that moment of parting, if you had understood the true purpose he had been coming into your life and moving away, you would have joyously allowed him to go because you would have taken this wonderful soul created opportunity of divine growth.

Conflict in a relationship, pain in a relationship, hurdles in a relationship, miscommunication in a relationship…. all of these point squarely to a soul mate relationship. Soul mates can come together as husband and wife, brother and sister, parent and child, victim and murderer, rapist and the raped, abused and the abuser. Yes, friends, they are also your soul mates. The nasty person who is always taking pot shots at you, making you feel small, is the ‘best’ soul mate you can have.

Why do I say this? If there is some person in your life who makes you feel small, here is an opportunity to grow as a soul. We all know that no one can make us feel anything. That is the first truth you have to acknowledge. No one makes you feel angry, no one makes you feel sad, no one makes you feel happy. You do it to yourself. But because you are not aware of how you are communicating or how you are miscommunicating with yourself, you will blame the external person or the environment.

No one makes you say anything. No one forces you to take any action; you do it of your own free will choice. Accept that as your first recognition of self-responsibility. It will free you, my friends. It will free you to such an extent that your spirit will soar. Stop blaming others; free yourself of that burtden.

When you feel small, you must use this as an opportunity to question self: where is the lack? What, in this entire experience, triggered this insecurity, this inadequacy within you? Why did you react? What were you reacting to? What were your expectations? In every relationship we come up against expectations; our own and those of others. “I am doing so much for her; surely she can do this one thing for me?” if you are doing something with a sense of expectation, the DON’T DO IT AT ALL because your expectation will certainly be thwarted.

Expectation has a most amazing way of constantly disappointing you. You just never fulfill expectations. No one will fulfill yours and you will never fulfill anyone else’s, so stop burdening yourself with that. Be who you are. Understand why you are doing certain things. Understand your motives. Then you will understand that all the vital relationships you have drawn into your life, the pleasant relationships and the not so pleasant relationships, are soul mate relationships. Don’t ask when you will meet your soul mate; you have been meeting them all your life, starting with your parents.

No, not even your parents are your twin souls. You choose your parents because you have a lesson to learn from them, through them. Every child has a bone to pick with parents at some time or other, in ways big or small. There’s no avoiding that. Why? We choose our parents very carefully, to give us experiences, to open our eyes to truths which we can’t see within because of incomplete inner communication. Parents serve as an external mirror.

That’s what all relationships of soul mates come down to: external mirrors to help you discover vital self truths. You keep meeting soul mates, constantly and consistently, again and again, throughout your life journey. With each soul mate relationship, you begin to assimilate certain energies that were unresolved. These unresolved energies create patterns in your relationships, like control issues, manipulation, rejection of self, and so on. These patterns play a vital role in opening your eyes to the self truth waiting to be discovered by you. Thus, from blindness you move into awareness, and then into resolution.

As more and more energies get resolved, soul evolution takes place, which means that the small orb that is ‘you’ begins to expand, merging itself with many other small orbs and thereby climbing, in a sense, higher and higher to those two orbs that were ‘the first split’.

It is then that you meet your twin soul, and when you do, you know it’s your last lifetime. Some people call twin souls as ‘twin flames’ because the Unified Source is looked up to as the Creative Sacred Fire.

Is there a purpose to a twin soul?

The only purpose is to become Unified Source. The purpose of growth and assimilation lies with is your soul mates. Twin souls have no ‘agenda’. That’s their joy. That is why our soul, at some level, is constantly seeking for that. When people say, “There is something I’m looking for which will complete me”, I sometimes pick up that what the soul is questing for, is the twin soul and thus I know that the person has reached high on the evolutionary arc. It’s a deep yearning; not a desire. What many consider ‘yearning’ is actually ‘desire’.

So soul mates have nothing to do with twin souls.

On the contrary, everything to do with twin souls. If not for your soul mates you wouldn’t meet your twin soul.

What I mean is that you have to go through your experiences with soul mates to get to your twin soul.

Yes.

Now let us move on to soul fragments. In the course of our interaction with soul mates, we tend to leave parts of our energies behind. Often when I study someone’s energy structure, I can describe a person who might have been a part of that person’s life when they were very, very young. How is this possible? Part of the energies have been left behind with that person. Not always is the memory an unpleasant one; at times, it is a very pleasant memory, holding deep affection. This is known as soul fragmentation.

Let me explain this further, with an example, for greater clarity. Let us assume, I meet R and she turns out to be the most marvelous friend I’ve ever had, who nurtures me, supports me, gives me strength. Then for some reason, I’m separated from R., never to meet her or talk to her again. That part of me that had met R for the purpose of assimilation, (which could have been learning not to emotionally depend upon others) remains unfulfilled, remains with her, so to speak, seeking to complete the assimilation which was the initial purpose in any case, but also naturally remains in connection with me because it’s part of my grid structure.

The more fragmented your energy structure becomes, the less in equilibrium can you be. This is because your energies are constantly being pulled back and forth from the many places and people that they are attached to. Pleasant as well as unpleasant soul mate connections can, and do, very often cause fragmentation.

In order to be complete within ourselves, in order to make that movement towards those large magnificent orbs that are our greatest energy sources, we need to draw our fragments back to us.

Today, I will guide you through an energy exercise to draw your energies back to you. Will it all happen in one session? Of course not! We have so many fragments in so many places, that to draw them back to ourselves will take time. But if you do this energy exercise for 31 days, with full dedication and concentration, you will have drawn back to yourself a significantly large number of fragments.

The joy is this: as the fragments come back to you, you expand your soul energy volume. This expansion gives you added strength to draw even more fragments back to you.

There is a difference between soul fragmentation and soul extension. Visualize the rays of the Sun. Each of these is a soul extension of that orb; just as the Sun itself is an extension of Unified Source, just as the two orbs are an extension of Unified Source. The two orbs emanate and radiate their energy strands. All those radiating strands are soul extensions. Each of those extensions will extend themselves even further, thus the splitting continues, one of the extensions taking on your form. You have also extended yourself; you are not the end of the rung.

The most obvious splits are our children. They are our soul extensions, which means so are my parents….and therefore my ancestors. And so on….till Unified Source. You don’t only stop with your children. You extend yourself into areas and into people you don’t even know you are. For e.g. I was told that my niece is my soul extension. If she’s my soul extension, she is also my sister’s soul extension, which means my sister is my soul extension. But then that’s obvious because my sister and I have the same parents. So everywhere you look you will find your soul extensions.

You don’t need to meet all your soul extensions; In fact, we don’t meet all our soul extensions. Very loosely speaking, for the sake of understanding, if I have split into K, and Kaushal has split into P and P has split into N, then my connection with N, though as real, is very distant. My soul extension would be called K, not N. Although in the large scheme of things, N would also be an extension.

The reason why we split into soul extensions is to accelerate our evolutionary journey. The more of me, the greater is the assimilation.

What if we don’t have siblings?

No, please don’t misunderstand me. I gave the instance of siblings and parents and children as the most obvious examples. It doesn’t mean that it’s only about siblings or only about parents or only about children. I met a lady through P, through an e-mail. She would paint and I would channel the same thing simultaneously. We both realized that we were soul extensions. We had a brief interaction over e-mail and that was it. Soul extensions don’t need to have a heart-to-heart tug or deep feelings. Soul mates do! You need to be drawn to your soul mates; otherwise, how will you have the ‘experience’? You don’t need that with your soul extension.

So, friends, the more vital your inner communication is, the clearer is the understanding about your soul mate relationships, and their purpose. You can find the answer by being silent. Just 5 minutes of silence (I’m not talking about being quiet; there’s a difference: you can be quiet without being silent) is enough to open up a world of information for you. It is in that silence that you can draw back your fragments. It is in that silence that you can reach out to those orbs. It is in that silence that you can understand your soul mates and yourself. It is in that silence that you can communicate with who you are, and it is in that silence that you embrace yourself.

Meditation:

Breathe in white pure light, deep into your very being. Let this light run up and down through you. As it runs up and down, cocoon yourself in golden light. This is not a protective shell; this cocoon of golden light empowers you, adds to your strength so that you can draw the fragments of your soul, back to you, easier. As this cocoon forms around you, please state, very strongly and clearly, that you are ready to welcome the soul fragments back to you. You are ready to begin the process of full assimilation.

Place your hand upon your solar plexus and feel the strength of your Divine Power. Breathe in and out of your solar plexus, rhythmically, easily. With each breath feel how strong the solar plexus is. Let your arms now rest comfortably.

If you wish, at this stage, you may ask a master, a deity, an angel, a God or just simply yourself, to help you, to aid you, to draw to you, those soul fragments that you are ready to assimilate.

Breathe deeply. Pay great attention to the inhalation. You are drawing towards you your soul fragments. You may be able to identify the fragment. It may give you a face, a place. It may show itself as a dark colour or an uneasy feeling. But don’t be worried if you’re unable to see or feel. Remember: you are working on an energy level, not on a physical level.

Now breathe into your hara chakra. Breathe deeply into your hara chakra so that you clear it. Give space for the energy of the fragment to enter. If there is no space, it cannot enter, even if you are ready. Clear the hara chakra of all debris or as much as you can. To clear the hara chakra, breathe into the chakra and strongly breathe out, through your mouth.

As you clear this space, the soul fragments gently come drawn towards you, entering your heart. If you have cleared your hara enough, now start channeling the energy of light, from the hara up to the crown chakra. As the light reaches, from the hara to the crown, the soul fragments are gently but firmly fixed into your heart, where over the following days or weeks, they will gently begin assimilating into your grid, becoming part of you then.

As more and more fragments are drawn towards you, over the following weeks, you may sometimes get a feeling of disorientation, uneasiness or breathlessness. Do not allow these symptoms to stop you from continuing this wonderful journey that you have embarked upon.

Now send out one strong ray of light from your 3rd eye chakra. Allow this ray to go as high as it needs to, wherever it needs to, till it connects to the energy of the twin orbs: your God/Goddess energy. Do not give it a face or a place; you will only draw the energy back to a soul mate instead of the twin soul. When you resonate completely with you, with who you are, with what you are, when your inner communication is complete, only then will the twin soul energy express itself to you, through a face. Till then, it will come to you, delighting you, through its energy. Allow the energies of your twin soul orbs to wash over you, to cleanse you, energize you.

Let yourself bask in this wonderful energy. Be your God/Goddess energy. It is this energy that will answer your soul’s yearning. The soul yearns for union, for full and complete reunion. Remember: that though you yearn for your twin soul orb to be manifest in a face, in a person, its individuated energies have already manifested itself through your soul mates; those wonderful friends, family, relationships who have come to teach you who you are and who you are not; to help you to see hidden aspects of yourself that you are ignorant of. From henceforth do not give any person a label; rather call them all your soul mates.

In deep consciousness of your Godhood, very gently, you may open your eyes and return to the room.