2007.06.24

If you ask someone why you have a relationship, there answer would be ‘to complete myself’. That is truly the purpose of a relationship. Each one of us seeks completion. In that statement itself we discover the greater truth, that we are unable to complete ourselves on our own. And though that is part of our evolution, we are still not at that stage when the completion can take place within. If that is the Divine Purpose, an inner state of incompletion cannot be as ‘bad’ as some have made it out to be. We have intellectual knowledge that we need not seek validation outside, we need not seek love outside, and yet the divine purpose is completion.

To seek completion we have to understand clearly what we are seeking. Let us remember that we choose within our energy matrix the proportion of the masculine and feminine energies, after reviewing our Akashic records. This proportion remains constant.  It is that which we seek to complete through all our significant relationships; children, parents, siblings, spouses, friends, co-workers. At this stage of evolution none of us choose a 50/50 ratio, but that is our eventual goal. It then goes beyond that where there will be no energy that will be distinctly identifiable.

Though we view energy structures as different, our energy structures are only apparently different. If there is a complete merger between energy structures, it will bring the individual matrices top 50/50. Those relationships which permit you to experience momentarily the 50/50 energy structure, you term ‘harmonious’, when the soul experiences the joy of completion, even though it is temporary.

Why does the soul seek this temporary joy of completion? Why does it need to constantly remind itself of this? Because the joy acts like a spur to make the soul persevere in spite of the dualities, and move towards unity. When the dualities become overpowering, the soul puts out its energy tentacles to reach out for the most appropriate relationship to experience this bliss of unity. This bliss of unity instantly converts consciousness into knowingness and the conflicts of a past moment seem to disappear.

This is what the soul seeks as these periods of bliss of unity, brief though they may be, allow the wealth of consciousness to become the treasures of knowingness. When conflicts are viewed with the eye of conscious knowingness, they lose their power over us.

It is this that the soul seeks through relationships; not approval, not validation, not love, not nurturing. That is for you to give yourself. We choose this everyday, and with different persons.

But what happens is that the energy structures through which the soul seeks to experience the bliss of unity, are as caught and constricted by the dualities and conflicts of our existence as you. This leads to disharmony and dissatisfaction.

But here is a greater truth. Though you may experience the disharmony in a certain relationship, the soul seeks relationships with only those energy structures that have the greatest potential for you to experience the bliss of unity/completion with. This has to be understood from a larger aspect. A relationship is the human interaction where there is contact on a continuous basis, whether it is harmonious or not. So, on the one hand the soul recognizes the potential of that energy structure to bring you to the bliss of completeness, and on the other hand there is disharmony.

If you could for an instant forget the distinction between you and the other, and believe that all is only energy, then you would instantly turn inwards and start to work upon your inner dualities that are constricting your energy matrix. With this inner harmony, comes external harmony. Thus the potential is converted to an experienced bliss of unity.

Now be aware of all those persons with whom your soul is seeking the bliss of unity. This does not refer to a marriage or a sexual act alone. If you perceive that you are in a relationship with another, this perception is your soul knocking at your knowingness, to remind you that the energy structure has the potential to make you experience the bliss of unity.

When I am you and you are I, our souls naturally and seamlessly dovetail, and we ride each other’s energies effortlessly, and your consciousness knows what the other’s consciousness is seeking, because they are the same.

Frequently we go through periods when the disharmonious relationships seem stronger and greater in number than the harmonious ones. View all relationships not through the eye of knowingness but through the vision of consciousness. The vision of consciousness allows you to penetrate through the dissonance to the true depths of the cause. And if you permit it to happen, the bliss of unity will take place.

Can this bliss of unity not happen within, without the external relationship?

At the current stage of humanity’s evolution, no. We still use the dual strands even in our energy matrix and thus we need two energy structures as well. Duality and separation is a vital part of our existence just now.

Does it have to be two human beings?

No, not at all. It can be an animal, object or place….any energy structure.

What is the difference been a permanent relationship and a temporary relationship?

No difference, just the fact that your soul chooses to unite more strongly with one energy structure than another through soul contract. A marriage, or a relationship with a significant other, has a unique twist. It is for the purpose of the experience of the bliss of unity, through the fullest experience of separation!!!  You cannot experience separation more strongly than you do with your spouse or significant other.

In astrology the house for the spouse and the enemy is the same one!!!! (Laughter)

Well, now that makes a lot of sense. The same energy structure has the greatest potential to make you experience the bliss of unity…. and the extremes of separation. In times of conflict neither is viewing the other through the vision of consciousness, but through a very limited eye of knowingness which further constricts the two energy structures. So the potential does not have the chance to turn into bliss.

What happens if your partner passes away, or you don’t have a partner?

The place of that partner will be taken on by another soul with whom you have a soul contract. Your husband has passed away, but your soul could have contracted with your son’s soul to become the greatest ‘potential’ for you, because, I repeat, sex has little or nothing to do with this.

Though we have described only one on one relationship for easy explanation, the web of energy is spun by A’s relationship with B, B’s relationship with C, C’s relationship with D, D’s relationships with A and so on.

The only way to move beyond separation is through complete assimilation. There will be some relationships where assimilation is complete, and some where separation is strong. When the focus shifts from weaknesses to strengths, the potential begins to convert to bliss.

Thank you for your love and support.