Connecting With The Inner Child - A Tender How-To

---EllaeenahJadeFire

I’ve often been asked how to truly connect with the inner child.

This simple yet profound practice has supported me deeply—and has gently transformed the healing journeys of many whom I’ve guided.

It begins with a letter. A tender reaching in. A remembering.

Here’s an example.

Once your letter is written, you’ve opened a door. Here's how to gently walk through it:

·      Pause and breathe

Let yourself settle. Take slow, self-nourishing breaths. Notice what emotions arise—softness, resistance, grief, relief. Let them be. There is nothing to fix. Just be with the inner child.

·      Respond with love

Close your eyes and imagine your inner child before you. Say softly: “I’m here now. You no longer have to carry the emotional burdens alone. You are safe with me.” Let the adult ‘you’ show up for the inner child with calm, loving reassurance.

·      Physically soothe yourself

The body holds your stories. Give it comfort. Touch can help you feel safe. Place your hand on your heart or belly. Or wrap yourself in your favourite ‘blankie’. Gently sway, hum, or rock yourself—like you would a baby. Whisper tenderly: “We are safe now. I’ve got you.”

·      Ask what the inner child needs

Gently ask: “What do you need from me right now?” Let the answer come naturally—maybe it’s: rest, laughter, honesty, safety, fun, a good cry, simply to be held. Write it down. This is your soul promise—a sacred vow to the child within.

·      Follow through 

Choose simple ways to honour the promise you have made. E.g. If it’s an ask for safety → Take a quiet evening and spend time nurturing yourself. If it’s an ask for fun → Do something playful and spontaneous. If it’s an ask for love → Write a love letter to it, or talk to it words of deep love and commitment.

·      Create an ongoing ritual

Place a photo of your very young self somewhere visible. Smile at it each time you pass it.  Follow a daily or weekly check-in: “How are you today, little one?” Let the inner child play a role in your decisions—listen to its insight.

This journey with your inner child is not about “healing once and for all.” It’s about building a lifelong relationship of tenderness, trust, and truth. You are, both, the one who was wounded and the one who returns to offer love. This is divine power in action!

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