Choosing ‘Me’ ---Who Knew It Would Be This Powerful?

For a long time, I thought growth had to look dramatic. Big breakthroughs. Powerful transformations. Loud declarations of “I am healed now.”

But the truth is…what changed me most were the small things. The tiny moments that didn’t look important at all.

Like the first morning I didn’t rush out of bed to complete the several appointments of the day. Or the day I caught myself smiling at absolutely nothing. Or the evening I chose rest instead of proving something to the world. Or that instant when I said ‘no’, not allowing even those dearest to me to talk over me.

No fireworks. No announcements. Just a quiet “something is different now” inside my chest. Just knowing that I couldn’t go back to what was.

I used to believe I had to become someone else to be happier. Stronger. Wiser. More “together.” But what actually happened was so much simpler: I stopped abandoning myself. How? I began to choose ‘me’ … every single time.

I started listening when my body said, “Please slow down.” I started honouring when my heart whispered, “This matters to me.” I started letting joy be small and ordinary… instead of something momentous. I bid goodbye to shame and guilt.

There was a time when I thought healing meant becoming unbreakable. Now I know it means becoming gentle and tender with myself. Showing the kindness to ‘me’ that I effortlessly show to others.

Some days, I still get it wrong. I still overthink. I still carry traces of old fears. Old beliefs. Old reactions. I still catch myself keeping silent when I should say something. But I also laugh more easily. I let go quicker. I forgive myself faster. I choose peace over perfection far more often than I ever used to. And perhaps that is the real miracle: Not that life has become flawless. But that I have become kinder to who I am.

Growth doesn’t look like we expect it to. It looks like choosing yourself in ways no one else will ever see, in ways that no one else might agree with or approve of.  And those small, invisible choices change everything.

And honestly, choosing ‘me’ has been more beautiful than any transformation I ever imagined.